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Marriage and Why People Do Not Change, April 2002
dedicated to my son
..........It's time that someone let's you know where you are going. I can do it in words but someone else might do it a lot more painfully. (Happened late September 2002)
..........Most people when they leave home never grow up. They even die as a hopeless angry child even at 90 years old. They surround themselves from the first day they leave home with those of the same character and mind-set, anyone who makes them feel OK. Often they marry someone who supports the wrong in them and this is in addition to marrying the male or female similar to the mother or father they had during their childhood. You see, they always need to reconcile their relationship with parent or never recover from that curse of resentment which carries on to the next generation. If they had been molested, they might even believe that they love the parent whom they actually really hate which then leads to manipulating and controlling all those around them as they live a life of phoniness and hypocricy. Telling lies then becomes second nature while right becomes wrong and correction no longer exists. If they have children, they use them to let out their frustrations. They even have children for the sake of their ego. However, not for a love they never knew but always searching for it never to find it.
..........People who have lots of money or positions of power use this money and power to feel good about themselves but unaware that they are basically the same inadequate child. Not only inadequate but most likely that angry and resentful person who never resolved the feelings of hostility towards parent. It is so obvious that the angry female who hates father finds a husband to hate and chooses a weak and emotional dependent male to marry. The angry male who hates his mother also chooses a female to look down upon as an object to feel that he is getting back at mother but truly never to resolve his emotional strife. As the years go on he works on her watching her deteriorate to eventually fall victim to Alzheimer's or even cancer when he then feels that he has resolved his anger towards mother. He actually helped to destroy her as another accomplishment of all evils in today's world. This is the underlying phenomenon of obsessive childish behavior often seen as suicide in youth when it comes to a climax. It even leads to killing many others on the way down similar to serial killers. It is just another form of serial killing where the death is not just sudden at an early age but a lengthy process of illnesses, strife, helplessness and pain.
..........When children appear in this hostile marriage they see these children as objects to continue their dysfunctional cycle for the next generation to have that same problem as an endless way to emotionally self-destruct. Evil must always eliminate the connection with conscience and any hope of remorse. There is a constant battle between good and evil where goodness hangs around but is suppressed by the evil elements which got into them. This suppressing effect might be described as depression where most medical practitioners do not comprehend this phenomenon due to the fact that they themselves suffer from their own evil influences. There is never absolute truth if money is an issue. Yes, they simply prescribe anti-depressants which add to the serious problem and further disaster. A mother in Texas killed 5 of her children because she found no help and her relationship with conscience never existed although the family believed that it did. You see, evil plays that game and as long as there is no awareness to absolute truth but a denial and belief in the lie evil must always win.
..........Evil is the basic ingredient when it comes to the dysfunctional. Very few people on this earth can say to themselves, "I am evil". The truth is that the evil had got into them. However, to be carried around from one generation to the next. It takes suffering to break that cycle and as long as any form of suffering is avoided there can never be a change in the cycle. There is a comfort zone for murderers and a comfort zone for villains. There is also a comfort zone for corrupted individuals which includes every person who has yet to "grow up" emotionally. Growing up is painful and cannot be accomplished through approval seeking, surrounding oneself with friends who truly are not friends when they go along with what is incorrect. Roy Masters calls them fiends. Even guilty parents will hang around needing their psychotic children never capable of any correction. So great is their guilt that they too must go back to their victims and console them. How sick it is to see dysfunctional parents supporting the children they victimized. There cannot be any awakening to absolute truth without correction and even some suffering. Where are the tears? Where is the pain? Nowhere to be found when the conscience no longer can be encountered. As longer as it is too painful to feel the pain and realize how sick and evil one has become there may never be hope. Yes, without insight there is no hope. The original gift of insight from our Creator has now been suppressed and may never be reached again because of the avoidance of pain and suffering which is required similar to an exorcism. It takes reaching out something so difficult for those who live off of pride and their conspiracy with the devil.
..........Where there is no conscience there is no hope. Most people have learned to survive like an animal rather than to go back to the true innocent spiritual being they once were at birth. They even destroy their child's innocence in order not to see their own personal ugliness like an every day reflection in a mirror. Most people are too far gone and live at a time in their lives where it becomes too painful to see themselves for what they have become. Miserable and angry beings. The more material things they receive which includes approval the more wretched they become.
..........Mark, you are now living in a hell avoiding anyone who will tell you what you have become. You are now a slave to your wife who hates real men because of her relationship with her father, and as long as you give in to her childish psychoses she feels just the same about herself when it comes to you. Your wife knows what you think of her, what you have said about her and what you are.... similar to her father someone to hate but to need around in order to reconcile the painful past. One can never let go of that strong need to reconcile the anger which has been around for so many years unless something very serious happens. One always looks for this such as a serious car accident or dropping your baby out of the truck. Look what the mother of 5 children did to her children who she was supposed to have loved. She drowned them.
..........Where there is no correction and true love there cannot be any insight to reality but the further creation of self-denial of any absolute truth. As long as she can use you and get the material things her parents needed so badly she will only seem to be a happy wife, but as the years go on it gets uglier and uglier. The weak or wickedness begins to expound as it no longer can be hidden away under that phonyness and hypocrisy, and the ugly evil elements begin to show just as a volcano erupts leaving those permanent impressions which never go away. The face begins to show those signs which have previously hidden years and years of anger and deceit. More so in the female because they are the main source of evil and when never corrected by the man, if there is one around, they fall victim to that evil which got into them while young. She discovered while young that her vagina was always a tool to corrupt the male, just another way of getting back at father, although discovering that it is very difficult to corrupt the real man who is always directed by a higher power and a conscience.
..........She had learned from her parents in a home where there had been no love or respect that what you have is important not what you do and what you are. The world is now full of similar inadequate morons who even vote for a political party which will love them as they are. The liberal mind-set is full of this. Similarly they find their own corrupted love in order to avoid feeling the pain of seeing the truth about themselves which can be very painful. America was very close to being ruled by the inadequates and morons who now begin to dominate the urban areas. This even includes millions of illegals who found amnesty and ran away from correction. This is so obvious to the conscious mind which observes how the political arena is basically from an evil bent. Yes, an evil feminine bent dominates politicians. Similar to the Roman Empire in the year 200 A.D. the leadership of the world has become feminized leaning towards homosexuality, corruption, weak men and dysfunctional people who feel good while they undermine everything that is correct. Bill Clinton undermined America, walked away with a smile and half the country still loves him. This described the family of today. In countries such as Africa the end is not far away.
..........Notice how people always find something to be angry at. This is judging and something only God can do. We call this ego and the ego is essentially the culprit because it is this ego which evil gets hold of to arrive on a world full of dysfunctional and inadequate morons.
..........I am sorry to be so hard and to the point but I am tired of watching people destroy themselves. If no one speaks up, the end will come faster as seen with all previous civilizations. It is already snow-balling. If any of the cultural indices are reversing and improving, it is only because something painful got in the way to make it happen. Yes, correction requires pain and suffering when it comes to dysfunctionality and psychoses.
.......Dr.Roy Foster