........It
is a situation which may never have a satisfactory conclusion
as long as we are dealing with individuals who need anger management
therapy so badly, not forgetting spiritual awakening. We also
have a couple who make materialism (lack of values) more important
than what is correct to do although very hypocritical because
the money spent here for legal fees could very well be spent in
therapy and conscious enlightenment. Their feelings control their
rational mind because they are both obsessed with "how I
feel" before "what is right" as the thing to do.
........When
he had become violent, he could have very well listened, "to
leave and get some therapy." He obviously was looking for
trouble just as his wife is a trouble maker like her sister, two
of a kind. A family who needs things to judge. They feed on this
kind of behavior to build upon their own low self-esteem. In true
essence it is their behavior which is very bizarre. Her behavior
outside the courtroom was extremely "bizarre" and could
have placed her in jail, and we do not wish to have our grandchildren
ever seeing their parents in jail.
........They
are typical of millions of people who avoid the truth, never to
look at their behavior problem, never to listen to good advice
and always avoid those who might expose their inadequacies and
dysfunctional behavior patterns. Millions of Americans walk around
this way simply avoiding the pain it takes to see the truth, even
to end up in the jails, or some even become politicians within
their particular comfort zone.
........Without
suffering there never can be correction. My reaction to his lies
in his declaration is to reply with my order on him and at the
same time not permit him (which actually came through her) to
have an order on me when it is a deceitful thing to do. You see,
they always have got away with everything in their lives always
avoiding correction and any pain. He had left home early and she
had never been disciplined.
........It
is now three times that she has kept our grandchild away from
us and he has foolishly (unconscionably) allowed her to do so.
One time it was because we were friends with her sister even for
a short while. This is what one might expect from an eleven-year-old.
And for her to now even be a mother. Her recent behavior also
is an example of immaturity. What did anyone do to her? What had
the father done but use stern discipline and to keep telling his
son, "Both go to therapy."
........Our
life is actually much easier now and we believe that God has a
reason for everything. No need to baby sit which is what they
expected of us. They always have been users. We are now hoping
that they might go to therapy where one day they might be sincere
enough to ask for forgiveness. Time is running out for them as
they get closer to mid-life crisis. This is when physical disorders
begin to arrive. As parents and grandparents who understand the
facts of life, we know that the grandchildren will question their
parents for their childish, corrupting and incorrect behavior
sooner or later and one day go looking for the grandparents who
truly love them. Children know where true love is better than
the parent because they have yet to be corrupted. Children know
when their parents are hypocrits and users. For this reason many
demented mothers have killed their children because the are threatened
by the child's innocence and awareness. (Remember that mother
who killed her five little boys where also the father didn't really
even care, seen everywhere but yet to happen?).
........We
now see our son in deep emotional trouble lacking self-esteem
because of his egotistical life-style supported by money and the
wrong people, and unable to reach out for help because of his
marriage. This is always self-evident through lies, deceit and
self-denial in the life-style of most people today. Therefore
it is the duty of loving parents to find a way to make a change
before it is too late. This situation may yet not be painful enough
but it is the start. Mature people handle the pain, those who
need to grow-up must be confronted with pain and suffering to
reach any kind of enlightenment. As we must now say "Things
are meant to be under the eyes of God." and "You Always
Get What You Deserve"
Another Message to the
world of dysfunctionality from Dr.Roy Foster
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